![]() ![]() But she is also very sweet and gentle at other times. My younger one has been a highly sensitive child since birth. I have two girls, three years apart, oldest is 13. I consider myself longsuffering but I have had all I can take. Other Resources for Learning Challenges.Resources (and Curricula) for Processing Difficulties.Science Courses: Text/Online Support Packages.Apps, Learning Games, and Online Enrichment Activities.Getting Started: Beginning the Home Education Adventure.Stories and Tales From Around the World.If conflict stubbornly persists and you find yourself still dealing with fighting kids, call a meeting to discuss the issue. Let your children express their feelings, needs, and desires and write down how they feel. Then, have them brainstorm solutions and write down all of their ideas without rejecting any. Reading the list of feelings and ideas back to your children gives them a feeling of importance and validates their point of view. Try to implement their solutions, instead of your own, as children are much more likely to carry out a plan they had a hand in making. Never toss a coin to resolve disputes when dealing with fighting kids. It trivializes their needs by making them dependent on blind chance. Rather, encourage your children to come up with their own solution. Similarly, you should never put things to a vote. ![]() Again, this demoralizes and invalidates the feelings of the losing vote. Instead, work together to come to a consensus. When a child can’t get what he or she wants you can give it to him or her in a fantasy. “Wouldn’t it be great if you had a big brother who would let you play with his toys all the time!” Doing so gives recognition and validation to the child’s desires, which gives him a feeling of importance. This is often enough to satisfy him even though he can’t get what he wants. See more on the topic of giving a child his wishes in a fantasy by clicking here. When two children are competing for attention you have to be wise and figure out who needs it most at that moment. ![]() Who has not been getting enough attention lately? Usually there is one who needs it more and he or she should be dealt with first. Try and stay out of minor sibling squabbles and avoid being the judge. You want to resolve conflict, but it is usually impossible to truly judge who is right because you, the parent, didn’t see the whole chain of events and don’t have all the facts. Thus, if you step in as the judge, it will be perceived as unfair and will cause more conflict than it resolves. Therefore, encourage your children to work out their conflicts on their own. If they are struggling to work together, try helping your children communicate their needs and desires to each other. Ask them how they feel and then restate it to the other party. ![]()
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